Laugh...Fake it till you make it!

Some of us treasure our solitude. It is good to be alone and contemplate about things sometimes, but no one wants to be lonely. We cannot do away with it often times...yes,  with a lots of reasons behind. It is an integral part of us being human. However, it is a must for us to cope with it before it cause severe damage to our physical as well as mental health!

"Laughter is the best medicine"  this line is quite a cliche but holds to be so true. There is no greater stress reliever than laughing! It is FREE! It is God's gift for survival.

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There are some who are naturally born funny or comedian, but everyone of us has a funny side too. We just have to come out of our shell sometimes. It really pays to laugh. I mean LOL (Laughing out loud) and not just a timid smile. :)

One of my favorite stand up comedian  is Russel Peters. Let me share one with you here... (so darn true! )

Russel Peters

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The amazing HA HA HA song!

If you want some more jokes...Click   1001 Jokes

.....Have the best laugh of the day everyone!

In Pieces I am

In the prime of life...
suddenly
A gist of purpose,a kernel of thought

How can a blast of feeling
averted with ease and smooth?
Never look at me
with the glaring eyes of askance
beneath the peeking smile,
is a cascade of tears
tough it is...never been prosaic
struggling to emancipate
the bound rooted for years

Mortal is this, surmise you must not!
Till you come and be someone
with my own soul try to breathe

Skeptical may seem...
but sound judgment I never claim
Far from the verity, unobjectionable and whole
now this is me,
in smash pieces Iam...
waiting not to be devoured or volley
but someone to cull, in own heart be cache

 (2010)

Better Left Unsaid

This is the poem I made for my Best friend who really means so much to me. One  fine day, something came up, and I just can't find it in my heart to tell her about it, for I know it will really break her heart...

There are things better left unsaid,

For the hurt it may cause can never be altered

Though I wish to tell you the truth-

After all “NO SECRETS” we repeatedly deemed and oath

But surely things will never be the same

Once you know... I’m afraid, you will truly be lame

You keep on telling me you are numb,

Despite the immeasurable pain, never will you succumb

But forgive me, I felt knowing this would break your heart!

It’ll not only give you tears, but even tear you apart!

I hate feeling guilty, for in fact I should NOT!

God knows how I love you dearly…without a tiny spot.

I wanted to hold you, and embrace you tightly;

Give you the assurance that life would turn out lightly

I tried hard to forget, though it’s haunting me and I’m aghast

I felt so betrayed, turned me into pieces and undeniably abashed

I was deeply hurt…yes, I was bothered-but I don’t care,

It’s you I’ve been thinking, taking chances I won’t dare.

But then I come to realize…forgiving would ease the pain,

And forgetting would turn the heartaches, into futile and vain!

It will heal my wounded mind, pamper my bruised soul;

Bring back my confidence, with less effort and toil!

Being open and frank, not subtle –“that’s what I want” you said;
Since our FRIENDSHIP is eminent, that is what I tried and now I did.

And so I thank you, now I’m a bit at ease,
But so sorry I know, in ebb you are …not at peace!

All I can give you is my fervent prayer and promise,

To make all the means, for your happiness to flourish

Ask for the TRUE strength, that only God can give,
Assure you of REAL FRIENDSHIP that will last till the end!

(2010)

My life has just began....

25th Feb 2013

This is my third year celebrating  birthday away from my love ones. It's been three long years that I've been trying to convince myself that I am happy...I had ONE wish on that day...quite realistic it may seem, but sadly, it wasn't granted! Well, I didn't have the guts to voice it out in the first place....(like many other things I should have voiced out.) I just thought somebody will be sensitive enough to discern the wish in my eyes. (ha ha...as usual, me and my assumptions...unending speculations)

Nevertheless, with the initiative of my close friends, I managed to enjoy a little time outside (hmm mm if you can consider that frequent checking of the phone while in the Bar- as "enjoying"...yeah, I enjoyed! :P)

There was one incident happened later part of my supposedly "BIG " day, that almost caused me to feel really bad .(well, it did affect me a bit, I won't deny that) but I managed to compose myself and turned it as a funny incident instead... (with the hilarious re- enactment of some of the concerned friends HA HA)

Anyway...the main thing is...I am in the stage of my life where I have to stay focus! Stay focus on so many things, mainly important ones. As the days passes  by, everyone of us is grabbed with an opportunity  to do the things we ought to do and dreams we wish to fulfill. Everyday is a life's journey we have to travel, everyday is a battle we all have to fight for..But in the end however, there is no measurement of success..only the gratification of  how we enjoy our sojourn in this world....

Let me leave you with a very funny but  realistic thoughts:

"Don't think much about the past, it brings TEARS...Don't think more about the future, It brings FEARS...Just Think about today, it brings CHEERS!"

The Debutante...LOL!

So CHEERS to TODAY! and Thank God for another Stressful...arduous ...striving BUT definitely Fulfilling Life  I lead....
Just wishing for more more years to share with my love ones.....

Perceiving life...Clear-cut

While searching over Google images for some needed visual ideas for the page I am administering, This photo captured me and the undying famous line "is the glass half full or half empty" suddenly become the subject of my thoughts and so I decided to searched over the net for some of the clever and funny thoughts and interpretation of this timeless question. 

Fortunately I found this www.businessballs.com who had cleverly compiled views on this issue :) (However, Let me just share with you here the lines that really struck me most as it is funny and wittily written.

Is the glass half Full...or half empty?

• The optimist says the glass is half full.
• The pessimist says the glass is half empty.
• The project manager says the glass is twice as big as it needs to be.
• The realist says the glass contains half the required amount of liquid for it to overflow.
• And the cynic... wonders who drank the other half.
• The school teacher says it's not about whether the glass is half empty or half full, it's whether there is something in the glass at all.
• The professional trainer does not care if the glass is half full or half empty, he just knows that starting the discussion will give him ten minutes to figure out why his power point presentation is not working.
• The ground-down mother of a persistently demanding five-year-old says sweetheart it's whatever you want it to be, just please let mummy have five minutes peace and quiet.
• The consultant says let's examine the question, prepare a strategy for an answer, and all for a daily rate of...
• The inquisitive troublemaker wants to know what's in the glass anyhow... and wants the rest of it.
• The home builder sees the dirty glass, washes and dries it, then puts it away in a custom oak and etched glass cabinet that he built himself using only hand tools.
• The worrier frets that the remaining half will evaporate by next morning.
• The fanatic thinks the glass is completely full, even though it isn't.
• The entrepreneur sees the glass as undervalued by half its potential.
• The computer specialist says that next year the glass capacity will double, be half the price, but cost you 50% more for me to give you the answer.
• The first engineer says the glass is over-designed for the quantity of water.
• The second engineer says (when the half is tainted) he's glad he put the other half in a redundant glass. (Based on a Dilbert cartoon by Scott Adams)
• The computer programmer says the glass is full-empty.
• The Buddhist says don't worry, remember the glass is already broken.
• The police officer says: "I'll ask the questions."
• The (other) pessimist says the glass is half full of shit.
• The economist says let market forces decide.
• The call-centre operator asks if you'd mind holding while she finds out for you. (Your call is important to them...)
• The IT support person asks if you've tried emptying the glass and then refilling it.
• The insomniac will be up all night wrestling with the question.
• The psychiatrist would ask you, "Is the half-empty/half-full glass really that important? I mean... really? Think about it. If fact, let's not. Let's set that particular issue aside for a few moments and talk about what's really bothering you.."
• The sales person will convince you that even though the glass is half full/empty you are getting more than your money's worth compared to buying a full glass. The full glass is less expensive because of the economies of producing a common standard version in big quantities, whereas the more expensive half full/empty glass represents much better value because it is more exclusive and better quality, and very hard to come by and greatly sought after.
• The customer service agent will agree with you that the glass is half full/empty, and he will do anything in his power to fill the glass up at no extra cost. However, after a full investigation you will be informed that you mistakenly received a half full/empty glass since you only paid for a quarter. You therefore received a half full/empty glass at the price of a quarter-full/three-quarters empty glass. You should consider yourself very lucky, and that any further complaints might result in your having to return the half full/empty glass at your own cost, with no guarantee of any refund.

"Life is what we make it" Quite a cliche, but it makes a perfect sense!

Wearing Faces like dresses...

“Confront the dark parts of yourself, and work to banish them with illumination and forgiveness. Your willingness to wrestle with your demons will cause your angels to sing.” 

These words from August Wilson strikes me to the core after a short but self awakening discussion with the person I fully trusted. I never thought at this stage of my life, after being a career woman for a long time, I still have to assess so many things within me. Things that a mature and career oriented individual like me should have known better for a long time!

It pays to be brutally honest with oneself sometimes...but the problem is it is hard for us to be self aware of what was going on within us. We always need someone to be an instrument ...to be a constant reminder, a guide to self awakening, and I am glad they are just right there...the truly honest and caring persons around us.
True indeed, What you see within you is not always going to be so cool (even how hard you are trying to convince yourself)! There are even times like this that you will find out some embarrassing traits that you didn't even want to hear. You will likely to discover so many flaws, and yes you will cringe!

In my more than ten years as a high school teacher, I almost over used the phrase "learning is a continuous process" to my students...part of that learning should be the self-assessment, yet, I almost forgot to apply it to myself.

I remember an account before... when I was new in this country... one time I called my daughter and started lamenting on my observations towards things and people around me...I was stunned with my daughter's remarks! She deliberately uttered: Mom, you are no longer in the classroom now! You are in a corporate world! With you are no longer your students, but co workers who are even there for centuries, and with far far experience than you! From my teenager daughter? t was indeed a great wake up call, and I started reprimanding myself from then on...
But....

Body Language- This very thing plays a vital role in our individuality as a person. What our body language indicates sometimes didn't actually coincides with what we are trying to convey, or worse it even go the opposite direction...The issue that i am battling for a long time .I am a kind who has no mediocre side...definitely extreme to extreme in so many ways.When in good... I am the best! but when I tend to be bad?(well we all have that side as a person)  I'm exceptional ! unfortunately it includes my body language. When at times I'm  in a good mood I am a cheerful and bubbly person...a thing which will not always be applicable in a formal work environment.This is where my battle field started, because every time I tried acting the business like manner...I always tend to look arrogant and rude! Yes, I blame my facial expression at times! I never wanted this aura of a dominant and quite intimidating type! (Still won't accept it though...Am I? I don't exactly know what chromosome is that) For an extrovert person like me,I wouldn't want an aloof surroundings! I would always go for a convivial and vivacious associates, and the last thing I would do is to be the primary stumbling block to achieve that kind of atmosphere. So these "rude" reactions (as some would call it) ... are absolutely meaningless!


But then again...its not about  what I see, what I know and what I believe

Being in a far away place such as this, mingling with people from all walks of life...from diverse cultures, Languages,Religious Beliefs and practices, I am starting to fully understand that I still have a long long way to go..Those who knew me deeply, understands the real me, and I am proud to say that I am dearly loved and appreciated! But then again, I couldn't expect a large number of people around me to know me deeper! especially in a work setting. Now I finally realized that in this life sometimes it is inevitable not to learn wearing faces in a different situations! Wear faces like dresses! A face for each and every occasion. One has to learn the art of masking. It is not being "untrue" and "fake" but it is learning to safeguard yourself from a lot of troubles ..It is trying to be acceptable in the society ...and ultimately conforming to the norms and standards of being a normal individual, in a normal worldly set ...

After the initial shock upon shock of what I have learned, I finally discover and is trying to rediscover the goodness within me. I know that I have this boundless inner power: The ability to self correct!
and I will start TODAY!

Staying True!

                             

Anamnesis....

"Unfortunately, the clock is ticking, the hours are going by. The past increases, the future recedes. Possibilities decreasing, regrets mounting."
-Huruki murakami-

You want to know what had happened before a certain occurrence took  place?...A Movie has its flashbacks. I wish life has the same....You want to watch a particular Movie scene you like best?..A DVD player has its play back. I wish life has the same...You want to listen to a song repeatedly...over and over again?...Yes, Music player has its rewind. How I truly wish life has the same. But past is past, and no matter how hard we try, we  can never bring it back!

The pieces of my life...

But there is nothing worse that a past that is not fully dealt with.We are continuously convincing ourselves that past is past and it should be forgotten, without realizing that the very fact that we can still tell ourselves that it is forgotten proves that it  IS NOT! there is nothing wrong in remembering the past.The past can teach us...inspire us...mold us...but it could never sustain us. You don't want to read a good book and tries to re read the prologue over and over again. You would choose to go on reading  till you reach the climax of the story.In fact, when you are there savoring the moment, you didn't even want to continue reading for  you know you will surely come to its very end!

We all do things that we desperately wish and pray we could undo.We have done enormous mistakes in our lives, we have struggles, we have so much regrets;But remember we are not the mistake...we are not the struggles, we are not the regrets...and everything happens for a special reason. We may never know about it too soon,but there is always a day for that realization.

"IF ONLY" these are the most common terms of regrets.We may never realized it but our lives somehow were bounded by these two words. Time changes..situations diverged.We make decisions we never ever thought of coming up with. Yes, we always have a massive difficulty in focusing the present, though we know indulging in the past couldn't help us achieving what we wanted for in our future.We're always thinking about what we did, what we haven't achieved...about how we could have done it better and how we could have achieved it...We're always thinking of the aftermath of our actions, and we have full regrets why we didn't act the way we should have.

Time is a very misleading thing.I'ts being HERE ...NOW is all that matters.All that is important is the moment you are into this very day. Make it vital...make it worth living. Do not let it slip away without  even noticing it.